I’ve been using September to raise awareness for childhood cancer, as it’s the “designated” month for childhood cancer. In reality, everyday is a day for awareness when you have gone through what we have.

I look around the stores and besides seeing Halloween decorations out before school started, I’m now seeing Christmas themes. If you ask Ella, she’ll tell you:
“it’s just wrong mama! It’s not even Halloween. I don’t even KNOW what I want to be and here are Christmas trees.”

Can’t say I disagree with her.

But, as I was looking through family pictures this past week, I’m reminded that the holidays are in fact approaching.

Below are the reminders we have of Shane during Christmas. Two is all we were lucky enough to spend with him.

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Making Childhood Cancer a National Priority

Take a moment and read this powerful article written by Jonathan Agin. He is one of the strongest voices within the childhood cancer community. After losing his daughter to DIPG, he has made his life’s mission about advocacy for our children.

In April 2008 my 27-month-old daughter was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor. Diffuse Intrinsic Pontine Glioma, or DIPG for short. With the best treatment available, she was expected to live nine to twelve months. As her parents, this was not something on our radar screen of concerns. As an educated person, I had little awareness of the world of childhood cancer at the time. Of course I knew that kids were diagnosed with cancer. My friend Marc Joseph died of a brain tumor when we were in middle school. I can still picture his funeral. And then there are the television commercials too. Commercials showing smiling bald kids who go to St. Jude and stay at the Ronald McDonald House. These kids all live happily ever after. Or so I thought. When the calendar hit April 10, 2008 and the words “your child has cancer,” were spoken, those images were quickly shattered.

Here are just a few of the facts that I learned along the way: Statistically, your child has a 1 in 285 chance of being diagnosed with cancer. Think about that for just a moment. Consider that childhood cancer remains the number one cause of death by disease in the United States of children under the age of 15. Of those children labeled “cured” 70 to 80 percent experience lifelong acute health issues. Each day of the year in the United States, over one full classroom of children is diagnosed with cancer. One out of five children diagnosed will not initially survive the diagnosis, and for the remainder of those labeled “cured” many will die in the next 5 to 20 years of life.

Gold ribbons, September, landmarks lighting gold, the legislative process, research funding, etc. This was the curriculum that I was forced to enroll in shortly after that

horrible day in April. September is designated as Childhood Cancer Awareness month. You may have noticed buildings and landmarks around the world lit with gold lights (except, of course, the White House and Empire State Building). Gold is the designated color of childhood cancer. I learned that the hard way. Hopefully those of you reading this did not.

The greatest source of funding for childhood cancer specific research comes from the National Cancer Institute (NCI) through the National Institute of Health (NIH). There is a tremendous amount of acrimony about the amount that NCI allocates to childhood cancer-specific research. As a percentage of the overall NCI budget, childhood cancer specific research comprises approximately 4 percent of the pie. Looking at 2013 for example (the last budget allocation publicly released online), NCI funded over $185 million in childhood cancer-specific grants. NCI’s budget for 2013 was approximately $4.9 billion. It is no surprise that childhood cancer advocates believe that this slice of the pie is inadequate.

What about Noah’s Ark though? What does Noah’s Ark have to do with childhood cancer? A life-size replica of the biblical boat was recently finished and opened to the public in Kentucky. The cost of this construction exceeded a staggering $100 million. Money was raised through private sources as well as local bonds and a Kentucky sales tax incentive, the subject of a court battle, which infused $18 million into the project. I make no commentary upon the propriety of building a life-sized Noah’s Ark, or the religious debate overall. My point is that as a nation, there is often a prioritization of investment into projects like Noah’s Ark over funding things like medical research. The ark, which received funding from private and public sources, represents more than half of what is spent on childhood cancer specific research by the NCI. There are many different “arks” out there raising incredible sums of money. Obviously, not everyone chooses childhood cancer as his or her cause and those of us in the community should never be so naïve to expect this result. My point is borne from frustration after watching so many children die of different forms of cancer for which there should be better treatments. At the end of the day, I wish that more people would be interested in trying to find effective treatments for children with cancer. Over 40 years after Neal Armstrong first stepped on the moon, the type of childhood cancer that killed his daughter Muffie, the same type that my own daughter had, is still being treated in the same manner. Man walked on the moon and man also has an ark in Kentucky now.

The infusion of an additional $100 million into childhood cancer research would be tremendously impactful for children as well as adults afflicted by cancer. Of course, this investment would not come with a life-size ark to visit, with a gift shop at the end, and thus the gains are more intangible. Ultimately though, I do have hope; Hope that tomorrow the next family that hears the words “your child has cancer” is left with more than nine to twelve months; Hope that the work so many do in the community will reach critical mass. At the end of the day I simply wish that there were greater prioritization of childhood cancer in this country. At the end of the day, I wish I could care about arks more than kids with cancer because we made the investment to eradicate the many different forms of childhood cancer.

I am heartened by the efforts of the childhood cancer community to collaborate and rally around our cause. This year, over the course of the third weekend in September, once again thousands of advocates will descend upon Washington, DC for numerous activities associated with Curefest, a three-day celebration that culminates with a gathering of organizations on the National Mall. It is a full-throttle demonstration that the community together is adamant about making childhood cancer a national priority. If you happen to be in the area on September 18, take a stroll on the National Mall and meet some of these amazing advocates. All we want is to make the sinking life- raft that childhood cancer has now into an ark—an ark, that if invested in, will save far more than two of each child.

As the Executive Director of the Max Cure Foundation, I am no longer fighting for my daughter and her life. What I am doing—and what so many of us in the childhood cancer community are doing—is fighting for the lives of all of children suffering. Building our ark today means that someday in the future the next child diagnosed with cancer will actually get an opportunity to pay a visit to the life-size Noah’s Ark in Kentucky.

http://www.realclearhealth.com/articles/2016/09/15/

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Thank you all so much for your kind words and thoughts of Shane. It’s very touching to read your words and to know how impactful Shane has been.
I don’t write these posts because I think I’m strong or wish to be inspirational. The only motivation I have is to bring to light the life of childhood cancer.

Shane fought cancer, like he wasn’t even sick. He was happy, smart and funny. He loved going to the hospital, enjoyed meeting other patients. He made our journey a joyful one. Weird, right? He made everyone around him happy to be with him. For that, we are grateful.

Thank you for remembering Shane with us.

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This is a fairly difficult one.
This video is of Shane 18 days before he passed. You can see the toll the radiation took on his head. Those are the remains of radiation burns.This looked GREAT compared to what it looked like a week before. It started as a small red patch at the base of his head. We lathered him up with aquaphor, but nothing seemed to work. It grew and got worse. It looked sore and eventually became infected. He was put on antibiotics and thankfully we found a special lotion used to treat radiation burns. 

This was difficult. If it looked like this on the outside, our thoughts always wondered what it looked like on the inside. He smelled for a good while of burnt skin. I can’t even describe the feelings and thoughts Paul and I experienced at this time. All we knew is that this would buy us more time with Shane and for his siblings to be prepared for what was ahead.

He is also wearing his favorite PJ’s. Those are the ones he wore at the end and I sleep with them under my pillow every night.

https://youtu.be/PkTVd7YsUUg

Day 13:
Shane’s type: alveolar rhabdomyosarcoma: Less than 10% in his age group

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“Sometimes a picture is worth a thousand words.”

15 years ago today our country experienced a horrific tragedy.
We will always remember that day so clearly.
We remember those who lost their lives, those brave rescuers and those who lost loved ones.

Paul and I were living in the DC area at the time. Paul’s apartment was just blocks away from the Pentagon. It left a significant impact on our lives.

Today, I think of grief those children who lost their parents, parents who lost children and all those who lost in connection to this day.

I think of this song, sang in tribute to those on 9/11 and how music is a powerful tool in navigating through grief.

It was also playing when we got into the car after Shane’s funeral services.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UgwJMzcPXbA

No truer words to describe children with cancer.

 

Shane, you are our hero.

 

www-shanesfuturedays-org

Day 9: Thinking out of the box

What was the driving force behind Shane’s Future Days?
Easy. Research….Childhood Cancer Research.

On March 6, 2015, we took Shane to CHOP for his last clinical visit. It was one of those trips where you knew what the answers would be and you dreaded going, but it was the final page in our hospital journey.

Shane had been on Etoposide for almost 21 days. It wasn’t working. While on our trip to Disney, more tumors began to grow and the most visible ones on his sternum and groin were growing more and more each day. I became the sole diaper changer of Shane when that happened. It was too difficult for anyone else to do it because every time you did, it was a constant reminder that time was running out.

So, it was then that we agreed there were no other treatment options left at the hospital for Shane. We were being transitioned completely to the Palliative Care Team. We would be connected with a local hospice team (Abington) who would come out to our home weekly to check on him and make sure his pain medications and other medications were still working. At this time, Shane was on morphine. His pain had gotten so bad when we were away that he needed to start it. We had it as a standby, hoping that we wouldn’t have to use it as soon as we did.

When we returned home, I immediately emailed Dr. Charles Keller at The Children’s Cancer Therapy Development Institute. We, the childhood cancer community, have groups that we belong to for our child’s specific cancer and within them are a range of discussion topics. One of these was tumor donation. Dr. Keller’s name frequently came up because he is the leading researcher in the field for rhabdomyosarcoma.

That night, Paul planned to take me to dinner since it was my birthday. On the way, I received a phone call…from Dr. Keller. I told him about Shane, his burden of disease and about our journey-personally and medically. He graciously accepted our offer of donating Shane’s tumors and promised to get the paperwork started, as we wanted everything legally in place for when the time came.

Besides this, he also kept in contact with us over the weeks until Shane’s passing. He got us in touch with other researchers and helped to solidify the fact that we were doing everything in our power to help Shane, even in his final days.

Thinking back about this day and time and writing about it is surreal. I’m not even sure looking in, how we would be able to make such a decision and just put the plan into action so quickly.

Simple. To us, tumor donation is a critical part to finding a cure. Our reality was clear- Shane wasn’t going to make it. As heartbreaking and sad as it was, donating his tumors is helping to create a legacy. It’s our way of giving back in hopes that someday another child like Shane will be able to survive this.

I will write more about www.cc-ti.org within the month. They are the future with their innovative approaches to bridging the gap in pre-clinical gap for childhood cancers.

Our partnership with them is only going to grow as we build upon what we started. Collaborating with other foundations and growing together is also important to our goal of a cure.

This is a great example of what we are trying to achieve.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jC8i_jkZHPc