This year’s celebration of life will be different than any other.
We are entering our 6th year of this event and celebrating Shane’s 7th birthday.
A new year, a new celebration is coming your way!
If you follow us on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/HelpShaneFightCancer), you know we had a busy December.
With the help of our supporters and the Kendra Scott store in King of Prussia Mall, we were able to support families through the Kisses for Kyle Foundation and The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia’s Palliative Care Team. We bought individuals gifts and gift cards from KFK and gave the PACT team, as well as a another local organization that helps families through CHOP over $1,000 in gift cards.
So, we enter a new year….2020.
I understand the anticipation of starting anew, seeing where the New Year takes you, but it’s also a reminder of another year without Shane.
Don’t get me wrong, we celebrate the anticipation with the kids, make resolutions, reflect back on the year and I wake up positive to greet the New Year. It’s just that we are missing a piece of our puzzle, our family….the life we never got to see in the last 4 years of this decade.
We missed birthdays—2, 3, 4, 5 & 6. Shane missed being a big brother, family vacations, the start of school and team sports, the list could go on.
What we can focus on is
Things we can do in the future to remind us of how strong we are from what we’ve been through.
We are so thankful for the success of Shane’s Future Days from the beginning to now. We are incredibly proud of the progress of Shane’s tumor donation and the research it has led to, as well as our continued partnership with Children’s Cancer Therapy Development Institute and CHOP’s PACT team.
We are blessed to have met so many through our journey and to all of you who have encouraged us, cried with us, supported us and created this with us.
Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
May the New Year and new decade bring health, happiness and a CURE!
For most, it’s the new beginning of another school year. Some parents are full of worry as their kids begin, hoping they like their teacher, find friends and flourish during the school year.
We have those same thoughts, but most of all September brings us back to the most difficult part of our lives.
September is childhood cancer month. It’s our time of reflection, and time to raise our voices and remind people that kids are dying everyday from a disease where there are not enough treatment options, not enough funding and not enough attention given.
We’ve shared this month with so many other families since 2014. It’s changed us. It’s shown us what is important in life. It has us fighting on a daily basis to make a difference for childhood cancer research.
Thank you for sharing Shane’s journey. Cancer is terrible at any age, but when it’s a child whose life barely even began, there is no comparison. If we don’t stand up for Shane and other children like him, who will?
*I will be posting every day for the month of September to raise awareness for childhood cancer. Follow us at: https://www.facebook.com/HelpShaneFightCancer/
Join us Saturday October 19th as we run, get muddy and have some fun for Shane’s Future Days at the Tough Mudder Tri State. Whether it is your first Tough Mudder or you have done them before, come join us for a great cause and experience. All ages and fitness levels welcome, it is not a race, we work together as a team to make sure everyone has a great time! We are running the ‘Tough Mudder Classic’ on Saturday. After you sign up below you will be able to join the team, follow the prompts in your confirmation email to join a team, and join Shane’s Future Days. If you have any issues, let us know and we will be able to email you an invite.
Don’t want to get dirty? No problem, donate to our cause here in support of those running for Shane’s Future Days. All money raised will go towards Christmas gift donations for pediatric cancer patients and their families. https://shanesfuturedays.org/donate/
As Paul mentioned at our 5th annual COL, we are funding a summer intern. Also, in honor of Kanen Wear, Hurrikanen Fights Back, and in memory of Antonio Santos, Stay Strong Antonio, Shane’s Future Days has donated $2,000 to a Ewing’s Sarcoma project. All of this has been through Children’s Cancer Therapy Development Institute.
Today is Shane’s 6th birthday.
He would be SIX. I can’t really wrap my head around this.
We are often asked how we celebrate such a sad milestone.
Honestly, each year is different. We have a simple tradition of having a cake based on a theme he liked or what we think he would enjoy. This too is getting harder. I am always thankful to have this consistency for now.
Shane was born on 07.11.13. He was perfect for us. Chase was born in ’07, Ella in ’11 and Shane in ’13. Together that marks Shane’s birthday.
Grief changes year to year. This year it’s been more physical. My body has been reacting in a allergic response to grief, i.e. asthmatic symptoms or allergic reactions. Like I don’t have enough to juggle at those times 🤔
But, that’s the truth.
Each passing year will be a struggle. The distance grows and we cling to 19 months of memories we had with Shane. BUT, those memories were everything…the good, the bad and the beautiful. We were so lucky to have him share his life with us.
Ella shared her thoughts on today. When it’s raining, Shane is swimming. When it’s thundering, Shane is bowling. When it’s lightning, Shane is the star in his own rock band.
The kids look forward to his birthday. They honor him, speak of him and now are teaching Will about him. Today at dinner, we said “Cheers!” to Shane and to our family and the happiness he brought us and continues to bring us.
I said to Will, Shane brought you to us. Will raised his arm and said “yes,” as he looked up.
I can’t ask for a better ending to this day.
We want to thank everyone that came out to the event yesterday. To those that couldn’t make it out and sent in donations, thank you! It was a huge success. We raised close to $20k this year. Weather was perfect. Turnout was terrific. It was wonderful seeing old and new friends. So much thought goes into the event, and we hope everyone enjoyed themselves. We kicked off the event with Fishtown vs Lighthouse in a friendly soccer match. We want to thank both teams for participating. It was so important for us to get the game in. Other than playing with his siblings, soccer was Shane’s everything. Special thanks go out to our speaker Dr Kamala Maddali. Her talk was truly inspiring. Now we rest, and start thinking about the 6th annual COL.
A huge “Thank You” to Pat Morris and St. Joseph’s University soccer program for donating a basket to our 5th annual Celebration of Life, which includes a certificate for a day/night camp fee and SJU swag!